A Personal and Profound Experience
I can’t say that I
have ever told someone that I am an atheist.
I can say that there was a time in my life when I turned away from a
belief in any kind of god, particularly the god of the Christian religion. This change had to do with feeling that the
Catholic religion no longer spoke to me, didn’t make sense to me, and I could
no longer, due to rational consideration of and my heartfelt understanding of
how the world worked, believe in a religion, perhaps any religion.What I could count on was the feeling of connection that I had with people in my life. They loved me and I loved them. We were and are there for one another. We support one another. We share the complexity of our lives with one another. I have, over the years, added to the group of people I consider intimate friends; people whose love and trust I can count on and turn to in difficult times. And people with whom I can share the many profound experiences that life offers me.

The
doctors started talking about waiting, and recommended genetic testing, which
we did. The doctors expressed some mild
concern about our ability to have children.
And we probably should have been more careful, hearing all this, but we
weren’t. And Martha got pregnant again
before the results of our genetic testing came back. This time we didn’t want to tell anyone; heck
we were even hesitant to tell the doctor.
When Martha did go see a doctor, a test was administered to check the
baby’s genetics. We were scared to death
when the result returned positive for possible genetic defects.
Our
doctor reassured us that the tests had a high false-positive occurrence, and
re-sent the sample for additional lab work.
Martha and I experienced several anxious, stressful weeks before
receiving the news that our baby was genetically okay. And yet we still waited until after the first
trimester to tell anyone besides the doctor.
When we told everyone, it was with joy in our hearts that we could
barely hold in our chests.
I
was in the surgical room when Martha had an emergency C-section. She was awake to see the birth of our first
child. And she was very clear that I
couldn’t take a video of the birth.
There was blood as they cut into Martha abdomen, but there was also a
big ten and a half pound baby. I took
Aaron, our son, over for Martha to see.
I watched as he made his first sound, as the doctor cut the cord, as the
nurses washed him, I was there and I wouldn’t have been anywhere else in the
world at that moment. Being there for
the birth changed me in more ways than I can adequately verbalize. I felt I had everything to live for, perhaps
for the first time in my life. And at
that time of my life, I was, for all practical purposes, an atheist.
Blessings,
Rev. Tom
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